Today I start a new series of blog posts about awkward encounters with people that don’t understand my way of life and the way I dress. I’ve entitled them Awkward Creepy Encounters because that’s what I think they are. So get ready to see what I experience on a regular basis.
This just happened to me last Friday, after leaving work just in time to have lunch. I was on my way to a restaurant near my office when I saw a teenager with an adult woman who I suppose was her mother.
Teenager: “Look at her!” – and started laughing and tried to hide with no effort. The adult woman standing next to her stared at me and laughed.
Shortly after that, I asked them if they had any problem with me, with just a “No” as an answer. But they kept laughing, especially the teenager who didn’t even bother to hide it.
– I don’t like how you dress either but I don’t judge you for it nor say it out loud. How rude! – and I left.
Although sadly I am used to being constantly judged on the street by complete strangers, I couldn’t help but get mad at that episode.
Someone who doesn’t teach their kids to respect others’ appearance clearly is not a good parent. How are we supposed to live in a society whose people laugh at others just by the way they dress, and even say those comments out loud?
I mean everyone has their own opinions about others, and we are constantly judged by the outside. But we should all be respectful and don’t say those nasty things. And what an example that a teen says those things in front of their parents and they don’t even bother to tell her that it is wrong to do so!
This is not the first time that I’ve been told or laughed at for who I am. And I don’t care about others’ opinions of me, but I just don’t understand why women have to tear other women down instead of just respect and empower each other.
I just wanted to write down this episode, and not all awkward creepy encounters are going to be negative. I’ve been approached by complete strangers to compliment me for my looks or even ask me about my style.
Have a great start of the week and remember to be yourselves!
With the end of 2015 vastly approaching, I think it’s time to show you the most popular posts of the year.
2015 has been amazing for me. Not only I’ve finally travelled to the city of Los Angeles to meet one of my best friends; I’ve also discovered that I can feel confident with my body through modeling.
Here you can browse my post popular posts during the year. check them all out!
One of my favorite Vintage Illustrators, so I had to start a series of blog posts about illustrators from yesteryear. His creations were magnificent, and most of them were used for Classic Hollywood film posters.
Outfit post modelling in Barcelona’s Estació de França. A pleasure to shoot with talented photographer Núria Martínez. She takes powerful photos and made me feel like a movie star!
This one is another of my favorite collaborations so far. I did a sophisticated photo shoot with german photographer Celina Dolgner. She really captured my funny and glamorous side at Barcelona’s Parc de la Ciutadella. I really cannot wait to shoot again with her in 2016!
Second post showing my collaboration with Goldie’s Clothing – previously Cindy Bangs -. I love this brand so much. Not only because I am part of the crew helping the brand, also because they encourage women from all sizes and ages to feel beautiful in their designs.
As a proud vintage hoarder and enthusiast, I came across 10 common problems that I’ve always experienced. And I’m sure you too!
Hope you all have a great day and enjoy the last days of 2015! ❤
Lately I’ve been thinking on many aspects of dealing with a vintage life in the modern world. And while I’ve been getting more involved in the scene and got to know more vintage ladies like me, I’ve come to discover than many of us vintage ladies happen to experience several problems related with our lifestyle. So that’s why I’ve done this quick and short list with some of the most common problems for vintage gals out there.
You never have too many dresses. NEVER. Your obsession to buy more clothes and accessorize is not understood by other people.
Finding the perfect shoes seems impossible. But when you find them, you’d wear these beauties even on your pajamas.
You seem to have a problem with stockings. They don’t last longer than a year. I guess it’s because I wear them very often…
Dressing up for no reason is your daily motto. And you feel everyone’s eyes on you: doesn’t matter where you go, everyone seems to study your whole outfit.
You’ve been told at least once “how bad were things for women back in the day”, as if you agreed with these conditions just because you wear like someone from those days. We know how were conditions back in the day. Mad Men accurately reflects it.
You are always on the hunt for lingerie bargains, and dream of owning the whole collection by Dita von Teese. If you don’t already own a thing.
What do you think? Miss any problem you experience as a vintage lady? Feel free to comment and I will include it!
Okay, first of all let me warn you: This is my honest and personal opinion, so if you disagree with it, I would like to hear your point of view. Feedback is important!
Lately I have been asked on several times why I wear like a 1950s/early 1960s young gal being a feminist myself. I’m kind of sick of getting asked about it, so I thought I would write a quick post about feminism and the vintage world. You’ve been warned!
- “Those women were treated like shit and had no rights” – some tell me. They are 50% right. My grandmothers lived well and loved their life back in the day. Not all women in the 1950s and 1960s were considered the inferior sex; some worked on their own despite the social pressure and economical difficulties for female workers. Moreover, in my country the situation was waaay worse with the dictatorship and the patriarchy stablished by a bunch of idiots. Working class families struggled to find resources to carry on, and some women had to go out in the streets and sell their bodies. Yes, that was real in downtown Barcelona, and I met brave women who, in the 1960s and 1970s, had to do that in order to earn something for their kids.
- Not all women are evil or sluts. In fact, none of us are. I am sick of hearing shameful comments because of the clothes a woman is wearing. “She’s a slut” or “Look at that virgin” shouldn’t judge us. Who are you to judge me and my privacy? Plus, If you don’t know me, don’t judge me. Got it?
- Virginity. What’s the fuss about it, really? Have you ever thought about what’s the deal with that thing? Do whatever you want with your body, don’t be ashamed to be or not to be, remember that society will always judge you. Just be yourself. On some days I like to wear a long skirt that people consider of a “virgin”, and on other days I wear either a mini or pencil skirt with back seam stockings. All are different looks, but I am the same individual.
- Rape culture. If a woman gets raped of harassed, it’s their fault because, as society says: “She was asking for it”. What the hell, seriously. We are strong individuals, as strong and valid as men, and we can do whatever we want and dress as prude or daring as we want.
- Make up and Lingerie. They are different subjects, I know, but some people tend to associate them with words such as “sex”, “couple”, “boyfriend”, “sexy”. Looks like if you are single and not dating anyone at the moment you are not permitted to buy and wear lingerie. Wear it for yourself and feel proud of who you are. Same thing with cosmetics. I love to get full make up, it really boosts my self esteem, but sometimes I just want to go natural. Doesn’t matter if you are seeing someone or not, do what you want.
- Avoid toxic relationships. If your partner doesn’t feel like you are a strong and independent individual, things might get wrong. Be sure to get away from someone who doesn’t treat you like it should. It might be hard to take a step, but don’t hesitate.
- Be confident all the time. I know it is hard to achieve, ’cause I get a bit depressed every once in a while. I am very sentimental and nostalgic, so I’m used to it though. It’s been +2 years since I started wearing vintage and each day that goes by I feel more confident about me and my body. I must admit I LOVE being stared at on the street 🙂
Personally speaking, I love who I am and my style. I have always been passionate about the past and its history, but obviously I do not agree with some ethics and social behaviors that were accepted back then. Society has changed for the better, but there is still a lot to do for us women. Just check HeForShe
, the worldwide campaign by the United Nations led by actress Emma Watson
I hope you all enjoyed my post, I needed to let this out. If you have more suggestions and tips, feel free to leave a comment!